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Gift Ideas if Your Partner’s Love Language is Quality Time

Gift Ideas if Your Partner’s Love Language is Quality Time

Clocking in quality time with your partner is a top priority for someone with this love language, and they don’t necessarily care about grand gestures, as long as you pencil them in for some regularly scheduled 1:1 time.

  • Schedule quality time together on your calendar.
  • Make sure you’re fully present when hanging out together.
  • Get creative with dates to create lasting memories.

The key is to be fully present and attentive during your time together. Focus on spending dedicated moments with each other, free from distractions, engaging in activities you both enjoy, and actively listening to one another.

Specific Quality Time Activities:

Shared hobbies:  Go hiking, play a board game, try a new activity like painting or pottery, or maybe join a game league together.

Meaningful conversations:  Have deep talks about your day, dreams, fears, wants, struggles, or life goals.

Date nights:  Plan regular date nights with a focus on quality interaction, not just going out to a new place. Go on a weekend getaway to refresh your surroundings and daily routines. Buy tickets to a concert you’d both enjoy seeing or make a date to go wine tasting.

Simple moments:  Enjoy a cup of coffee together in the morning, cook meals together, have a picnic in the park, or cuddle on the couch watching TV or a movie.

Active listening:  Pay full attention when your partner is talking, make eye contact, and respond thoughtfully.

Tech-free time:  Set aside time where you both put away your phones and focus on each other. Maybe it’s exercising together or taking a walk after dinner.

Volunteer together:  Find a cause you both care about and volunteer your time as a couple.

Plan a staycation:  Explore your own city or town with fresh eyes, or stay in and give each other spa treatments or massages. Help your partner unwind and de-stress with a luxurious relaxation experience.

Creative pursuits:  Write music together, take a cooking class, or try a new art form as a couple.

Key points to remember:

Be present:  Put away distractions like phones / messages and focus on being fully engaged with your partner.

Make time:  Schedule dedicated quality time in your week, even if it’s just a short daily check-in.

Tailor to interests:  Choose activities that align with your partner’s hobbies and passions.

Express appreciation:  Let your partner know how much you value the time you spend together.

Chana Pfeifer, LCSW, is seeing clients virtually and in-person in Long Island, New York.

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In-Person Counseling Locations: W. Hempstead & Copiague, NY

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First Date Musts

First Date Musts (by Jay Shetty on the Lisa Bilyeu Show)

Jay Shetty has joined Lisa to discuss his latest book, 8 Rules of Love which includes so much more than just 8 rules. Jay Shetty shares the lessons and experiences he’s picked up from his marriage and time coaching others on how to have deeper and more meaningful relationships.

First Date Musts – The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner

The early days in a brand new relationship really make a difference in who you choose as a long term partner.

A great quote from this video:  “We’re holding onto a particular picture of love. We have an image of what love is and don’t have an image of what it could be or how it grows.”

These 3 date rules (by Jay Shetty) don’t have to be done in any particular order, as long as they’re researched ahead of commitment / marriage.

3 Date Research:

1. DO I LIKE THIS PERSON’S PERSONALITY?

Do I get along with this person? Do I like their company? Are they interesting and fun to hang out with? Are you willing to spend 200+ hours with this person?

Most of the time on a first date, we’re more likely to be focused on if the other person likes us. Instead, we should be evaluating how they make us feel when around them, or if we share the same morals or life outlooks.

2. DO I RESPECT THEIR VALUES?

We don’t often understand our partner’s true values until much later. (This is why premarital counseling is so essential. Find more info. about my premarital therapy here.) We may not prioritize things in the same way.

What do they care about the most? You can find this out by listening to what they talk about the most. They’ll show you what they care about. Also, make a list of your own priorities.

3. Am I committed to helping them achieve their goals?

Am I ready (at any level) to help this person achieve their goals? Am I willing to be there with them and cheer them on? Do I want to see them and support them in attaining their dreams?

These 3 first date questions will help you assess who’s right for you.

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Parent-Child Dialogue – Felt Experience – Imago Therapy

Parent-Child Dialogue – Felt Experience – Imago Therapy Online

Here’s a clip with Chana in an Imago Therapy session online with a couple who was about to practice the “Parent-Child Dialogue,” a communication technique in Imago Relationship Therapy.

This is not about parent-shaming or parent-blaming, this is about our felt experience. As parents we know that we cannot be perfect. Some of our children may experience us giving them too much attention or not enough attention, and as parents, we do our best. So again, the focus of this dialogue is your felt experience.

Through Imago Relationship Therapy sessions with Chana, couples will learn new (and affective) ways to communicate so that both partners’ realities can be fully expressed and understood.

IMAGO RELATIONSHIP THERAPY TEACHES COUPLES HOW TO:

  • examine each childhood upbringing & how this formed their ‘Imago’
  • resolve conflict by understanding/empathizing each’s needs/desires
  • create a successful and gratifying plan for the future for you as a couple

If you’re interested in Imago Therapy with Chana Pfeifer, contact her today.

“As a certified Imago therapist, I love what I do. My specialty is relationships. I deal with a variety of people, whether it is navigating couples’ challenging relationships, separation, blended families, or geriatrics. I feel the variety of many issues keeps my skills sharp.”

West Hempstead Imago Relationship Therapist

Chana Pfeifer, LCSW is a West Hempstead Imago Relationship Therapist

“Imago” is the Latin word for “Image” – specifically, your image of love.

Many of us choose a partner subconsciously to attempt to recreate frustrating situations from our past so that we can solve and heal unwanted relationship patterns.

Imago Relationship Therapy uses frustration / conflict as a way to lead to healing – and ultimately a closer, more meaningful relationship.

Couples Therapy:

You won’t always know what your partner needs, nor can they fully know what you need without communicating it. Through Imago Relationship Therapy sessions with Chana, couples will learn new (and affective) ways to communicate so that both partners’ realities can be fully expressed and understood.

IMAGO RELATIONSHIP THERAPY TEACHES COUPLES HOW TO:

  • examine each childhood upbringing and how this has formed their ‘Imago’
  • resolve conflict by understanding/empathizing each’s needs/desires
  • create a successful and gratifying plan for the future for you as a couple

Imago relationship therapy is designed to help partners / friends / colleagues / family members work out misunderstandings, reduce conflict, and rediscover ways to bond.

Individual Therapy & Paired Therapy Available Also

Relationships Are Complex. Learn To Manage Your Partnership With Confidence.

West Hempstead Imago Relationship Therapist office is located at:
422 Berrywood Ct., West Hempstead, New York 11552

Other locations available in Miller Place, NY (Holistic Counseling Center of Long Island with David Weber, LCSW) and Huntington, NY (Huntington Relationship Center with Robin Newman, LCSW).

Call for additional information:  (516) 592-1107

Appts Available In Person & Online.