Why do couples fight?
According to Dr. Harville Hendrix, (one of the founders of Imago Relationship Therapy along with his wife Helen LaKelly Hunt), after looking at couples for 8 years, came to a conclusion that they fight for a core reason:
“They experience a disconnection from each other and want the connection back, so they project the responsibility of that disconnection onto each other; each couple then defends against taking responsibility for it, which of course increases the disconnection. So fundamentally, it’s sort of a paradox that couples fight in order to get connected, and the fighting actually results in having them become more disconnected. Basically, couples fight because of a disconnect and they don’t like it.”
If you live on Long Island and would like more information on Imago Relationship Therapy, contact Chana Pfeifer, LCSW.
You can also call Chana at (516) 592-1107.
Offices in both Cedarhurst & West Hempstead, New York
COUNSELING FOR COUPLES IN A SAFE, SUPPORTIVE PLACE
If your relationship is distressed, a Long Island marriage counselor can provide you with a greater understanding of your relationship, a way to use your challenges as the opportunities they are for deeper connection, and a road map for repair.