First Date Musts (by Jay Shetty on the Lisa Bilyeu Show)
Jay Shetty has joined Lisa to discuss his latest book, 8 Rules of Love which includes so much more than just 8 rules. Jay Shetty shares the lessons and experiences he’s picked up from his marriage and time coaching others on how to have deeper and more meaningful relationships.
First Date Musts – The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner
The early days in a brand new relationship really make a difference in who you choose as a long term partner.
A great quote from this video: “We’re holding onto a particular picture of love. We have an image of what love is and don’t have an image of what it could be or how it grows.”
These 3 date rules (by Jay Shetty) don’t have to be done in any particular order, as long as they’re researched ahead of commitment / marriage.
3 Date Research:
1. DO I LIKE THIS PERSON’S PERSONALITY?
Do I get along with this person? Do I like their company? Are they interesting and fun to hang out with? Are you willing to spend 200+ hours with this person?
Most of the time on a first date, we’re more likely to be focused on if the other person likes us. Instead, we should be evaluating how they make us feel when around them, or if we share the same morals or life outlooks.
2. DO I RESPECT THEIR VALUES?
We don’t often understand our partner’s true values until much later. (This is why premarital counseling is so essential. Find more info. about my premarital therapy here.) We may not prioritize things in the same way.
What do they care about the most? You can find this out by listening to what they talk about the most. They’ll show you what they care about. Also, make a list of your own priorities.
3. Am I committed to helping them achieve their goals?
Am I ready (at any level) to help this person achieve their goals? Am I willing to be there with them and cheer them on? Do I want to see them and support them in attaining their dreams?