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13 Premarital Counseling Questions from a Couples Therapist in NY

13 Premarital Counseling Questions from a Couples Therapist in NY

When coming in for premarital counseling, questions will be asked that will be unique to you, your relationship, and your expectations of your marriage.

These premarital counseling questions will help you & your partner facilitate conversations about important relationship topics that may cause problems later on if you’re not clear about where you both stand.

Marriage can be defined in different ways and our perception of family is based upon our past experiences, which is most likely different from what our partners have experienced.

The 13 premarital questions listed below are just a starting point in conversation:
  1. What do you appreciate most about your partner?
  2. How do you express love and affection?
  3. Do you agree with your partner’s lifestyle choices?
  4. Where do you see yourselves living and creating your life?
  5. How important are your religious / spiritual beliefs to you?
  6. Are you on the same page about having children?
  7. How do you relate to your family / your partner’s family?
  8. How will you manage finances (joint or separate)?
  9. How will you prioritize careers in relation to family / marriage?
  10. What are your expectations around intimacy and sex?
  11. What does marriage and commitment mean to you?
  12. What does betrayal and infidelity mean to you?
  13. How will you maintain your personal identity within the marriage? How much time do you expect to spend with each other? How will you spend your free time together and apart?
If you have more premarital counseling questions, contact Chana Pfeifer today.

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Guided Meditation before Couples Counseling

Guided Meditation before Couples Counseling with Chana Pfeifer, LCSW in Long Island, NY

One thing that I appreciate about you is….
One thing that I appreciate about me is….

Learn breathwork to slow down the mind before therapy.

Get attuned with your awareness of your emotional state.

Awareness and communication are what makes a connected relationship work. If you feel you are having difficulty communicating with your partner, it would be beneficial to have a therapist guide you in the process. Sometimes, couples become so emotionally disconnected and stuck in negative patterns that it is difficult to talk openly and honestly. If this feels like you, then reaching out to a professional social worker could be a great step toward having a connected relationship.

Chana Pfeifer, LCSW – counseling for couples and individual adults in a safe, supportive place.

For people who have concerns about their upcoming marriage, or want to increase compatibility with their partner, attending couples counseling with Chana Pfeifer can be a very rewarding experience!

Offices in both Cedarhurst & West Hempstead, NY:

422 Berrywood Court West Hempstead, NY 11552
222 Rockaway Avenue Building 1 Cedarhurst, NY 11516

For more info. on couples counseling or guided meditation in Long Island, click here.

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Long Island Marriage Counselor Quoted On Gray Divorce

Chana Pfeifer, licensed social worker in Long Island, New York was recently quoted in a Newsday article titled, “Gray Divorce Opened Up A New Life To These Long Islanders”.

Another chance at a life fulfilled…

Times have changed for couples feeling they need to stay married for better or worse after they reach a certain age.

Chana Pfeifer, a psychotherapist specializing in couples and relationship counseling with offices in West Hempstead and Cedarhurst, said the newest reason some in the 50+ age group have decided to split is the pandemic.

“The pandemic made couples of all ages get closer or exacerbated their misery. It has really forced people to examine their relationships and what they value. For someone older who has been married for decades and decades, there may be more baggage like kids, finances, and history that has to be taken in account when deciding to divorce a longtime spouse, but things CAN be worked out.”

Chana says that it’s important to those who get divorced later in life to remain open to the idea that a fulfilling and wonderful life could be ahead.

It can be an incredible beginning of a new chapter. We only have one life and deserve to live it the best we can be.

To see the full article in Newsday:

https://www.newsday.com/lifestyle/retirement/gray-divorce-opened-up-a-new-life-to-these-long-islanders-1.50313442

Affair Counseling Long Island

affair counseling Long IslandNo one thinks it would happen to them, but after an affair is discovered, many people find it difficult to understand why the betrayal happened…

Regardless of how you define infidelity, it comes down to one thing: betrayal.

It can severely strain a relationship and the people involved.

Perhaps you are struggling with the common emotions of anger and shock, or dealing with confusion and guilt.

Healing Broken Trust

When a couple experiences any level of betrayal it is common to ask:

How can I ever trust again?
Is this even fixable?

Trust needs to be repaired if a couple decides to stay together after an affair. This can take time and delicate attention.

Begin the conversation that will ideally bring you to a place where you can begin working on the relationship together.

Have You Been Unfaithful? Do you struggle with:

Feeling like it’s impossible to heal?
Do you wonder if you could ever make them happy again?
Feeling like you’re never good enough?
Do you wonder if you should try to heal the relationship?
Do you wonder if you should just quit trying?
Are you afraid that if you work on the relationship it won’t get better?

Has Your Partner Been Unfaithful? Do you struggle with:

Feeling like you’ll never get over the betrayal?
Do you wonder if the pain will ever go away?
Wondering if you’ll ever satisfy their needs?
With feelings of not being good enough?
Do you wonder if your life could ever get back together?
Do you wonder if you should stay or leave?

Affair Counseling Long Island, NY

Private counseling by an experienced infidelity specialist can be extremely helpful. Chana Pfeifer does not pass judgment and your time is completely confidential. Confiding in an expert can give you the support that you need and the precise guidance that you are seeking.

For additional information about counseling, please call (516) 592-1107 or email Chana Pfeifer at TheHappierMe.LCSW@gmail.com

Marriage Counseling Benefits

Does your mind crawl back to the day when you said “yes” to your spouse?

The words “I do” are stuck in your head like a song on repeat.. You think about all you have come across, all that you left for your partner, and all that you have accomplished together. You never would have thought about marriage counseling benefits when things were going so well.

Marriage was never meant to be a piece of cake. The day you tied the knot with your spouse wasn’t just a beginning of a fairy tale. It wasn’t just romance and honeymoon trips. Your marriage day was beyond all of this – it was the day where you were supposed to share everything in your life – from a bed, to financials, and above all, share what’s inside your hearts.

Your heart may change or disagree with something, but it wasn’t supposed to lose hope or feelings towards your partner. However, sometimes life does take U-turns and go crazy because of bumps that come along or milestones that crush you down, and it’s okay. It’s okay if you don’t feel the same anymore about him/her. The first step to overcome this hard ride is to accept the reality of your heart and mind.

Are marriage counseling services really worth it?

Next, you have to buckle up and get ready to talk. But consulting with a friend or family member isn’t the right place. Marriage counselors do have a major role in making life easier with marriage conflicts and perhaps one last try wouldn’t hurt.

Marriage Counseling Benefits: with therapy, you can start:

●       Resolving conflicts from a neutral perspective.

●       Analyzing the reasons that made you and your spouse disconnect.

●       Processing the emotions and ill feelings that led to consequences.

●       Receiving guidance to divert away from the turmoil.

●       Creating a sense of clarity with what your mind & heart want.

The entire process of realization and building communication must be addressed professionally.

Marriage Counseling Long Island When a couple is stressed, a lot of negativity takes control and makes getting back together the last resort. It makes it blurry for both individuals to understand and think for a second. Due to back-to-back fights and arguments, ill feelings towards each other mess up the foundation of what could be a great relationship.

By talking about your feelings and problems in a guided manner, a counselor tends to draw parallels between both people and address conflicts accordingly. It helps both reconcile and value the power of love and relationship.

For additional information about counseling, please call (516) 592-1107 or email Chana Pfeifer at TheHappierMe.LCSW@gmail.com