Category: Pre-Marital Counseling

Couples’ Premarital Counseling: Finance

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Finance can be one of the most difficult topics to discuss, especially when your relationship seems to hang in the balance.

Unfortunately, financial issues and conflicts are one of the leading causes of divorce among married couples. If these issues are considered preemptively, couples can acquire the vision and resilience necessary to navigate murky financial waters in the future.

Premarital counseling can bring the dynamics of finances to a more positive and objective light unshadowed by emotions or personal biases.

Some of the main topics of premarital counseling are closely linked to financial discussions, including personal values, expectations, roles, family planning, communication, and conflict resolution.

One of the most insidious contributors to financial discord is a lack of effective communication between partners.

Money can be closely linked to individual self-worth and related stressors can present barriers to openness. Even if both partners are open and willing to discuss critical issues, it can be challenging to fully articulate one’s viewpoint on such a multifaceted topic.

What one partner may consider a necessity, another may consider an expensive luxury. Some may find savings or budget planning to be of critical importance, while others do not consider it much at all. Differences like this may not cause conflict at the start of a relationship, but over time, these issues can fester and create a larger problem that is difficult to navigate alone.

Having the ability to express one’s inner desires and fears is key to connecting with your partner and the issues at hand.

It is important to understand each other’s financial background, including how socioeconomic factors may have shaped one’s view of money during their lifetime. Fully comprehending the mosaic of cultural beliefs, patterns, and experiences can help the other partner communicate effectively about financial situations and goals.

Discussing differences and expectations is essential to cultivating a healthy conceptualization of spending, saving, working, and budgeting. Designating roles when handling such as taxes, bills, credit, and debt can help to reduce strain and fulfill healthy expectations. This includes emphasizing individual strengths and discovering how each partner can contribute to mutual success.

Providing each partner with the freedom to openly discuss financial habits, expectations, values, and planning is the first step in conquering related conflicts that may arise.

This can foster the unification of dual perspectives to create a harmonious balance of individuality. Counseling can provide a safe space in which to communicate your fears and perspectives while taking a proactive approach to your future as a happy and connected couple.

Chana Pfeifer, LCSW - West Hempstead NY Therapist
I am seeing clients in person in my canvas outdoor office or indoor office 6 feet apart, as long as we are symptom free.
 
I’m also available for virtual counseling sessions with couples & individual adults through Zoom, Skype, FaceTime.

For additional information on couples’ premarital counseling, call (516) 592-1107 or email Chana Pfeifer, LCSW today.

Payments can be made via:  Cash, Check, Zelle, Chase QuickPay, American Express, Discover, Mastercard, Visa, Health Savings Account

Counseling Services for NYers

Counseling Services for NYers: Chana Pfeifer in W. Hempstead, NY:

I am available for telehealth appointments (Zoom or FaceTime) or in-person appointments, as long as we’re all symptom-free in my office or in comfortable rocking chairs in my backyard.

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Counseling Services for NYers: seeing individuals, couples and pairs. Get professional support when you need it. Secure & confidential. Payments can be made via credit card, Zelle, and Chase QuickPay.

For more info. on counseling, call (516) 592-1107 or email Chana Pfeifer, LCSW today.

Offices in both Cedarhurst & West Hempstead, New York:

422 Berrywood Court West Hempstead, NY 11552
222 Rockaway Avenue Building 1 Cedarhurst, NY 11516

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Pre-Marital Counseling West Hempstead, NY

As you prepare for your wedding, have you also prepared for your marriage?

A survey published by the Journal of Family Psychology reported that couples who underwent pre-marital education reported higher levels of marital satisfaction. They also noted a 30% decrease in the likelihood of divorce happening in over five years of the study.

Pre-Marital Counseling West Hempstead, NY

Chana Pfeifer, LCSW * The Happier MeEssentially, pre-marital counseling is a specialized type of therapy that prepares couples for marriage. The main goal is to help couples build a healthy, strong relationship that establishes a healthy foundation for their union.

Here is how an accredited counselor can help couples build a solid foundation for their union:

1.   Change Perspective

A counselor’s role is to help each partner evaluate the relationship in a more objective manner. They learn how to recognize their interactions and regard each other in a positive light.

2.   Identify Strengths

Pre-marital counseling helps couples identify their strengths in the relationship as a partnership. An in-depth understanding of the stronger aspects of the relationship helps build a spirit of resilience. Ultimately, couples will know that a solid foundation is what builds the marriage.

3.   Improve Communication

For a relationship to be successful, effective communication is an important factor to consider. Pre-marital counselors guide couples on how to talk to each other and remain intimate by openly expressing thoughts and feelings in a supportive way.

4.   Eliminate Dysfunctional Behaviors

Pre-marital counseling helps couples rectify dysfunctional behaviors such as dominance, control and addiction.

5.   Cultural Issues Affecting Marriage

Cultural beliefs tend to affect how partners relate to each other in their lives. It influences the daily common behaviors such as eating, working, and managing their money. The sooner a couple identifies and cultivates a new culture for themselves, the better. A counselor helps reveal cultural issues and teaches the couple how to compromise for each other.

Common Issues Addressed:

Pre-marital counseling addresses a wide range of topics:

  • Conflict Resolution – premarital counselors educate couples in resolving conflicts and how they can come to terms on issues they disagree on.
  • Finances – finance is a hot topic that couples should sit down on and learn how to navigate. The role of the counselor is not to act as a financial adviser – but to help each partner determine how they are going to create a financial system that will suit them both.
  • Sex and Intimacy – intimacy is what keeps partners close together. If uncomfortable discussing sex after being celibate, a counselor helps breaks the ice. Partners get to understand each other sexually and work towards maintaining a healthy relationship in the matrimonial bed.
  • Family – getting married sometimes includes starting a family together. Counselors direct the conversation in a serious light especially when it comes to the number of children and the aspect of timing.

Pre-Marital Counseling West Hempstead, NY

Adherence to privacy is what helps couples confide in their counselor. Be sure to work with Chana Pfeifer, your trusted therapist, providing exceptional skills and a supportive atmosphere for all couples in need of counseling services.

For additional information about attending, please call (516) 592-1107 or email Chana Pfeifer at TheHappierMe.LCSW@gmail.com.

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