While working on problems is one way to improve a long-term relationship, it’s just as important to reflect on your partner’s good qualities and the positive aspects of your connection. Below you can find what the 4 pillars of a partnership entail.
Can you be your true self around your partner? Is your dynamic mostly drama-free and peaceful? Do you have a friendship, as well as feelings of lust? Do you work well as a team? Is your partner inspiring you to be a better person / supporting you emotionally? Is there trust and open communication?
Here’s a checklist for a sustainable relationship from Amy Chan / Breakup Bootcamp Founder (@missamychan on Instagram). She helps people create healthy relationships.
The 4 Pillars of a Partnership:
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Chemistry – connection and attraction
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Compatibility – alignment of values and vision
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Timing – if it’s the perfect person at the wrong time, it’s the wrong person
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Mutuality – two people who are equally invested in building the relationship and have the ability and capacity to do so
Spend a few minutes reflecting on how each of these apply to your relationship. Chances are, you won’t have everything in balance, but that’s ok. The lesson here isn’t to pretend like your relationship doesn’t have issues, or obsess about the things that are lacking. There’s a lot there when you know what to look for. Keep in mind, that’s there’s always room for improvement in any relationship.
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