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Pre-Marital Counseling for Engaged Couples on Long Island

Chana offers Pre-Marital Counseling for Engaged Couples on Long Island

Whether you’re negotiating how to plan a family, concerned about how to manage finances, or navigating through a 2nd marriage, premarital counseling is the perfect place to discuss all matters related to married life.

Therapy doesn’t always mean a relationship is at its breaking point. Many couples are seeking to address difficult issues before conflict arises.

Every couple that gets engaged should go through premarital counseling. Partners learn how to deal with issues that may arise before they become a problem. This gives couples confidence and peace while stepping into a new chapter of their lives.

Through Imago relationship therapy, couples will learn how to communicate effectively with one another. During sessions with an Imago couples therapist, you may address family origins.

As a counselor, Chana assists couples develop safety and connection within their relationship, such as with:

Relationship Goals
Things of Importance / Value: friendships, alone time, date nights
Conflicts & Communication: learning to argue in the most effective way
Sex & Intimacy
Finances: bank accounts, paying bills
Children / Parenting: if you want children, parenting beliefs & styles
Family & Blended Families: visiting times, setting boundaries, holidays
Social & Religious Beliefs
Making decisions as a couple
Vacations – Guy’s/Girl’s Trips
Defining Roles, cooking, shopping, cleaning, taking care of finances

Therapy should be viewed as an act of self care / personal maintenance, a sign of maturity, and overall healthiness.

Set yourself up for marital success – Contact Chana Pfeifer, LCSW, to schedule an appointment in-person or online.

Chana Pfeifer provides counselin to individuals, pairs of family members, and couples of all kinds in the Nassau County areas of Long Island, NY including:

Baldwin Bellmore Bethpage Briarwood Carle Place Cedarhurst East Meadow East Rockaway Elmont Farmingdale Floral Park Forest Hills Franklin Square Freeport Fresh Meadows Garden City Glendale Hewlett Hicksville Howard Beach Inwood Jamaica Kew Gardens Laurelton Lawrence Levittown Island Park Little Neck Long Beach Lynbrook Malverne Manhasset Massapequa Merrick Mineola New Hyde Park Oceanside Ozone Park Plainview Richmond Hill Rockville Centre Roslyn Seaford Uniondale Valley Stream Wantagh Westbury West Hempstead Williston Park Woodhaven Woodmere

CHANA PFEIFER is one of Long Island’s best marriage counselors that has helped couples achieve greater coping skills to manage life’s stresses & challenges.

Imago relationship therapy for couples: new ways to communicate.

Imago relationship therapy for couples: learn new ways to communicate.

You won’t always know what your partner needs, nor can they fully know what you need without communicating it.

Through Imago Relationship Therapy sessions with Chana, couples will learn new (and affective) ways to communicate so that both partners’ realities can be fully expressed and understood.

When Long Island couples sit in a therapy session, they will engage in Imago Dialogue.

Here is an example of how conversational dialogue in Imago Relationship Therapy works.

This type of dialogue can be applied to appreciations, like in this video, and also for dealing with disagreements. It can be used for couples, but really for any type of relationship, romantic or not.

“Am I Hearing You Correctly?” Imago Relationship Therapy

Here’s Long Island couple takes cues from social worker Chana Pfeifer on how to use Imago Relationship Therapy techniques to effectively listen to one another. The video, “Am I Hearing You Correctly?” is about receiving.

This type of therapy teaches couples to lead with compassion and communicate their needs while not blaming one another for the problems in the relationship. Couples are guided through the process of learning ways of expressing themselves so that things become better for both involved.

Altogether, Imago relationship therapy teaches couples how to:

examine each childhood upbringing & how this has formed their ‘Imago’
resolve conflict by understanding/empathizing each’s needs/desires
create a successful and gratifying plan for the future for you as a couple

Contact Chana Pfeifer, LCSW for more information.

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Topics discussed in pre-marital counseling sessions:

Examples of some of the topics that are discussed during pre-marital counseling sessions include:

Finances
Parenting styles
Communication
Decision making
Roles in the marriage

(We’ll cover these and more in my pre-marital counseling sessions and workshops.)

Create mutual goals with your partner and resolutions for your marriage.

You and your partner may have different ideas of what specifically will mean you’ve achieved a happy and successful marriage. By discussing beforehand what you both hope to get out of your marriage, you can determine a few resolutions that combine what you both want. This gives you common goals to work toward that you both believe in.

Deal with conflict in a healthy way.

Even the happiest couples experience stress and conflict, and it’s essential to learn how to deal with these constructively as you prepare for the wedding and in the years to come.

Pre-marital counseling isn’t a compatibility test or a gauntlet to run.

It’s an educational process designed to support your relationship by providing the tools and coaching you’ll need to build a fulfilling life together in the years to come.

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