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Gift Ideas if Your Partner’s Love Language is Quality Time

Gift Ideas if Your Partner’s Love Language is Quality Time

Clocking in quality time with your partner is a top priority for someone with this love language, and they don’t necessarily care about grand gestures, as long as you pencil them in for some regularly scheduled 1:1 time.

  • Schedule quality time together on your calendar.
  • Make sure you’re fully present when hanging out together.
  • Get creative with dates to create lasting memories.

The key is to be fully present and attentive during your time together. Focus on spending dedicated moments with each other, free from distractions, engaging in activities you both enjoy, and actively listening to one another.

Specific Quality Time Activities:

Shared hobbies:  Go hiking, play a board game, try a new activity like painting or pottery, or maybe join a game league together.

Meaningful conversations:  Have deep talks about your day, dreams, fears, wants, struggles, or life goals.

Date nights:  Plan regular date nights with a focus on quality interaction, not just going out to a new place. Go on a weekend getaway to refresh your surroundings and daily routines. Buy tickets to a concert you’d both enjoy seeing or make a date to go wine tasting.

Simple moments:  Enjoy a cup of coffee together in the morning, cook meals together, have a picnic in the park, or cuddle on the couch watching TV or a movie.

Active listening:  Pay full attention when your partner is talking, make eye contact, and respond thoughtfully.

Tech-free time:  Set aside time where you both put away your phones and focus on each other. Maybe it’s exercising together or taking a walk after dinner.

Volunteer together:  Find a cause you both care about and volunteer your time as a couple.

Plan a staycation:  Explore your own city or town with fresh eyes, or stay in and give each other spa treatments or massages. Help your partner unwind and de-stress with a luxurious relaxation experience.

Creative pursuits:  Write music together, take a cooking class, or try a new art form as a couple.

Key points to remember:

Be present:  Put away distractions like phones / messages and focus on being fully engaged with your partner.

Make time:  Schedule dedicated quality time in your week, even if it’s just a short daily check-in.

Tailor to interests:  Choose activities that align with your partner’s hobbies and passions.

Express appreciation:  Let your partner know how much you value the time you spend together.

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Gift Ideas if Your Partner’s Love Language is Acts of Service

A theory conceived by Dr. Gary Chapman in 1995, a “love language” is the way in which people give and recognize love. According to this theory, there are 5 love languages: Words Of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. Although you can have elements of all five within your personality, for the most part, people speak primarily one love language.

If your partner’s love language is Acts of Service, here are some gift ideas to help make them feel truly loved and appreciated.

make them their morning coffee/tea/drink

Bringing your love a cup of their favorite beverage in the morning is a sweet way of starting the day with an act of service. This sets the tone for the rest of the day based off of a positive interaction between you two. A small gesture of serving one another shows that we actively think of and care for our partner.

Do Their Chores

Someone whose love language is Acts of Service is really going to love a gift in which their partner is providing an action to help them out in daily tasks. So give them a break with chores! Wash the dishes or tidy up a room that needs cleaning. Anything that helps your partner relax is a gift worth getting. It’s all about showing up for them when they need help.

prepare a meal

We eat everyday, and that takes planning. Take the initiative and prepare a meal for your spouse. It will make them feel nurtured. You don’t need to cook if you can’t, order something for takeout that you know they love to eat.

Give Them A Day Off

Giving your partner a day to themselves is considered the ultimate service in a relationship because it shows you respect their need for individual time, prioritize their well-being, and are willing to take on extra responsibilities to ensure they have a completely free day to recharge and pursue their own interests, completely unburdened by household tasks or other obligations.

The reality is, we all don’t love the same way. And, if we’re going to make our relationships work, we need to figure out how we like to be loved and how our partner likes to receive love.

It’s not necessary that we speak the same language when it comes to showing love, but it is necessary to understand each other’s needs.

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